If you’re new to the kinky world of financial domination (findom), knowing where to get started can be a daunting prospect. There’s a lot of unique terms involved, while you may not be fully aware of the specific role you should be playing.
Like any BDSM subculture, findom has various rules and dynamics involving submissive and dominant partners, so there’s a lot of stuff you’ll want to familiarize yourself with to ensure the best experience possible.
Thankfully, findom has become so popular that’s plenty of resources out there to help navigate through this exotic experience. We’ve got you covered with a comprehensive guide of the basic findom rules everyone should follow!
Know Your Role
In findom, there are two main roles – the paypig and the dominatrix/mistress.
As the paypig, you’ll be the submissive partner in the relationship, so should understand the various roles that involve being a sub. Your main role as a paypig is to be financially dominated by your dominatrix or mistress.
What it means to be financially dominated varies from each relationship, but it typically involves giving gifts or tributes whenever your dominatrix demands it. These gifts or tributes can be anything from luxury gifts like jewelry or footwear or to straight up cash – it’s entirely up to your dominatrix!
So, make sure that you understand that you’re the submissive role and are happy to be financially dominated in a way that suits the dominant partner.
Make a Contract
Each findom dynamic is unique, so drawing up a contract is a great way to establish the specific rules of your relationship. The contract is usually made by the dominatrix, who can list the various rules and demands she expects of you.
Assuming you’re happy with all the rules, you can agree to the contract and then start pursuing your findom relationship. Make sure you read the rules carefully and are comfortable submitting to the financial domination laid out in the contract.
Your mistress can include various things in the contract, but typically include basics like:
- Always be respectful of your dominatrix
- How you address your dominatrix (e.g. mistress, goddess, etc.)
- You must make a tribute when told and be thankful for the opportunity
- You can only contact your mistress once you’ve made a tribute
Establish Your Boundaries
Always make sure that you both set clear boundaries before pursuing a findom relationship.
Boundaries are crucial for the wellbeing of the paypig and the mistress. For example, the mistress should never make demands for gifts beyond the means of her paypig. A paypig that’s told to give more than they can afford is simply being exploited.
Paypigs should never be abusive or disrespectful, while the dominatrix should only do so if it’s within the boundaries of what the paypig wants. For instance, it’s only fine for the dominatrix to verbally humiliate her paypig if it’s something that he enjoys and has agreed to.
Boundaries also help establish a mutual understanding of what each person is gaining from the relationship. You’ll both have different things you want to gain from the findom dynamic, so boundaries ensure that relationship is mutually beneficial.
It’s not fair for one person to gain more from findom than the other, so always take the time to set clear boundaries for each of you.
How to Make Your Tributes
As a paypig, your role in findom is to shower your dominatrix with lavish gifts at her demand, which are known as tributes. Make sure that you establish how to make your tributes to ensure that you’re comfortable with the chosen method.
There are various ways that you can make your tributes, with the mistress usually telling you about her preferred method before anything starts. This could be a direct bank transfer, cash apps, or even crypto.
Also, tributes are not always just cash, with many paypigs preferring to purchase gifts for their mistress, with wish lists being one of the easiest ways to send these types of tributes. Other options include gift cards, while many dommes also take tributes in form of subscriptions or donations to their OnlyFans or LoyalFans accounts.
Again, make sure it’s a method you’re comfortable with, and be mindful of giving out things like bank details, especially early in your relationship.
Whether you’re a paypig or mistress, it’s helpful to understand the basic rules of findom to ensure you have a safe, enjoyable experience. Findom relationships should always be mutually beneficial, so be sure to establish a clear set of rules and boundaries, while always being respectful of each other.